The most important phrase I’ve ever learnt is,
No man is your friend,
No man is your enemy,
Every man is your teacher.
I live my life and remember this every day and by using this is a start point I managed to put a lot of stuff I held onto for years behind me. I blamed myself for anything and everything bad that ever happened to me. Don’t ask me why? I really don’t know! Probably because I did not know any other way to explain what happened. I was not equipped with the tools to deal with these things. I just did not understand . This phrase and four years at university helped me develop the tools I needed to help myself. I studied psychology, sociology and criminology at university. Before university I thought I knew it all after all I was street smart! I had learnt life’s lessons the hard way. Was I wrong! I was shocked by how little I actually did know Really I knew nothing about life. Yes, I could survive but that’s all I could do and had been doing for most of my life. Blogging is such a release for me. As I am writing this post, it brings memories back to me some of which are really hard for me to think about. Some actually bring tears to my eyes. The emotions I find very deep within scare me so much. How I actually did survive all these years is anyone’s guess. The one great thing that came out of all these memories my ability to write. I found writing so easy and such an amazing way to get rid of all my emotions, negative or positive. No wonder my mind was so full before I started my blog. Whoops apologies my blog topic as usual has gone off on a tangent. I did definitely pick the best degree for me. I needed to equip myself with some skills that would help me understand myself, my world and my brain. This was the course for me. I can highly recommend going to college or university or even homeschooling yourself. If you’ve ever suffered in life, whatever you’ve suffered or even if you want to help others. Please at least give this a try it’s like learning to be a therapist and then treating yourself . I know because I did it. I really helped myself understand more about everything and now look. I can express myself through the emotion. The phrase at the beginning helped me to understand people and it is true. I learn something from everyone I come into contact with but never allow them to affect my life in any way I do not want them to. Gone is the person who blamed themselves for other people’s actions. Actually in truth this is a more recent realisation, but one I endeavor to action with every interaction I have in life. I try to explain to myself it is not me who is bad, sad or mad but in actuality it is an inability of the other person to understand me, themselves or the situation.
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